Sometimes I feel like I am taking 2 steps forward and 1 step back in my research.
I read articles that have great ideas in them but then fall down with stupid statements that irritate me.
For example, I just read 'Sex as Play' by Nelson N.Foote, and it was good. However, he writes how humans are the only animals that produce copious amounts of sperm etc not related to procreation, and thus engage in sex as play or cultural interest. He also goes on to say that it is doubtful that any other female species achieves orgasm during sex.
Both these comments are a little ridiculous to be honest. I mean, even my budgie has engaged in copious amounts of sex almost bonking himself to death with everything. Masturbation for us is almost considered a cultural product rather than a natural one - yet look at my budgie? Isnt his constant humping classed as masturbation? Obviously he enjoys it - he didnt have any female budgies around and his activities werent restricted to certain times of the year related to breeding seasons. Of course, my budgie then got labelled to have Horny Budgie Syndrome by the vet.....does that mean that any human who indulges in masturbation is considered to have honry human syndrome? Why for my budgie is it classed as a syndrome or abnormality?
Plus, why would a scientist think that for some reason, humans out of all the species on earth would be the only ones to develop a cliterous (icantspell)? Ie a part of the body dedicated specifically to pleasure? Why would we be the only ones? Its not like culture has grabbed our bodies and placed upon us the clit - no, its developed naturally. And thus, one would assume, so has other variations for the numerous other species of the world. Afterall, even to argue from the point of procreation rather than sex for fun, it makes sense that the animal would enjoy sex as this makes it more inclined to engage in sexual activity and therefore increase the chance of conception.
There are also those Bonobo apes and Dolphins that have tonnes of recreational sex!
However, maybe we are the only species that has engaged in sexual activity to the point that we actively remove or annul its primative function of procreation. We remove from sex its basic purpose - taking away the physical and biological element to simply enjoy the benefits of intimacy and psychological blah.
An interesting point that I read was this:
Thus intimacy is not an inheritance but a social psychological achievement; it is th acme of communication and exposure of self. Every act of human coitus has something of the quality of drama; it commences with some form of pursuit and may be climaxed by total intimacy, but often is not. By itself, sex cannot substitute for intimacy; at best it then becomes mutual masturbation, a counterfeit currency of interpersonal relations.
So, maybe you should think about the mutual masturbation you have been having, rather than the intimacy it could really be.
I read articles that have great ideas in them but then fall down with stupid statements that irritate me.
For example, I just read 'Sex as Play' by Nelson N.Foote, and it was good. However, he writes how humans are the only animals that produce copious amounts of sperm etc not related to procreation, and thus engage in sex as play or cultural interest. He also goes on to say that it is doubtful that any other female species achieves orgasm during sex.
Both these comments are a little ridiculous to be honest. I mean, even my budgie has engaged in copious amounts of sex almost bonking himself to death with everything. Masturbation for us is almost considered a cultural product rather than a natural one - yet look at my budgie? Isnt his constant humping classed as masturbation? Obviously he enjoys it - he didnt have any female budgies around and his activities werent restricted to certain times of the year related to breeding seasons. Of course, my budgie then got labelled to have Horny Budgie Syndrome by the vet.....does that mean that any human who indulges in masturbation is considered to have honry human syndrome? Why for my budgie is it classed as a syndrome or abnormality?
Plus, why would a scientist think that for some reason, humans out of all the species on earth would be the only ones to develop a cliterous (icantspell)? Ie a part of the body dedicated specifically to pleasure? Why would we be the only ones? Its not like culture has grabbed our bodies and placed upon us the clit - no, its developed naturally. And thus, one would assume, so has other variations for the numerous other species of the world. Afterall, even to argue from the point of procreation rather than sex for fun, it makes sense that the animal would enjoy sex as this makes it more inclined to engage in sexual activity and therefore increase the chance of conception.
There are also those Bonobo apes and Dolphins that have tonnes of recreational sex!
However, maybe we are the only species that has engaged in sexual activity to the point that we actively remove or annul its primative function of procreation. We remove from sex its basic purpose - taking away the physical and biological element to simply enjoy the benefits of intimacy and psychological blah.
An interesting point that I read was this:
Thus intimacy is not an inheritance but a social psychological achievement; it is th acme of communication and exposure of self. Every act of human coitus has something of the quality of drama; it commences with some form of pursuit and may be climaxed by total intimacy, but often is not. By itself, sex cannot substitute for intimacy; at best it then becomes mutual masturbation, a counterfeit currency of interpersonal relations.
So, maybe you should think about the mutual masturbation you have been having, rather than the intimacy it could really be.
